Sunday, February 26, 2012

Happily ever after is so five minutes ago....

Seriously girls, there is no such thing as Prince Charming.  If you believe that then you probably also believe that you have a unicorn in your back yard.   Guess what? There is also  no such thing as happily ever after.  I don't say this because I don't believe in love, or marriage.  I do believe in those things.  I just don't buy into the whole Disney version of happily ever after.  I am not sitting around singing "someday my prince will come".  I don't think Prince Charming is coming to sweep me off my feet and whisk me away to eternal happiness and neither should you.

I get annoyed at the women who think that eventually Prince Charming is just going to show up. At their doorstep.  With their  freakin shoe.  It's not going to happen.  I don't care how many Disney movies or romantic movies you have watched.  The guy is not going to show up on your doorstep in the middle of the night declaring his everlasting love for you.  If he does, he is probably a crazy stalker, because it's the middle of the night! 

I don't understand women who think they will only be happy with a man.  Ladies if you can't be happy by yourself, then you won't be happy with a man.  Prince Charming is not going to complete your life.  You are going to do that by becoming a complete person.   A man is not going to suddenly make your life perfect.

Contrary to what you think after reading that first paragraph, I'm not sitting here feeling sorry for myself.  I am sure I will meet someone that I want to spend a long time (possibly forever) with.

I believe that two people meet, like each other, get along, be friends, have fun together, be there for each other, be lovers, be each others everything, drive each other crazy and manage not to kill each other.  If this is someone you marry, fantastic.  If this is someone you know and are with for a long time, great. If it's someone you meet and have a short relationship with, so be it.

 Right now, I am living my life, and the more I live it and look at the people around me,  the more I believe that a very small percentage of married people are truly happy and will last a long time. I know people who have good marriages, strong marriages that can withstand the turbulence and tragedy that some cannot.  These people bring out the best and sometimes the worst in each other and work together to make their marriages/relationships strong.  They are a team who together can get through anything.  The problem becomes when only one person tries and the other person lets them do all the work.  Too many people give up, I gave up but I tried for a very long time.

Love and true relationships are give and take, equal parts of good and bad, and if you are thinking that Prince Charming is going to make you exquisitely happy all on his own, then you better go hop on that unicorn and ride away.


1 comment:

  1. First to comment! Marriage IS work, absolutely. I can vouch for that. But I got lucky. As you said, some do. But despite what say, I believe that you will get that same luck. You deserve it! You spent many years trying very hard and it didn't work and you got out. So enjoy that freedom! I've known you my whole life and you love with all your heart and soul, just like me. One day you will be blown out of the water, I just know it. And remember, it just might be that one guy wearing the Wolverines shirt at Wal-mart late one night who happens to be browsing the same (gasp!) DVD's as you. Stay strong and true to you. Love ya much! Christy