Thursday, April 30, 2009

The Top Five Answers on the Board

I love Facebook. Have I told you that? It's like one big class reunion and fun time. In the last few months there has been an App that everyone has been participating in and its your Top Five answers on any and every topic you can imagine.

It's so much fun, because in my deluded little mind, I know you want to know what I think!

In honor of FB I thought I would share just a little bit more about me with you! Aren't you excited!!!!

Here is a list of Five things I will NEVER do:

1. Go out in Public in my Pajama's
There is no bigger pet peeve of mine than this. Now, to be fair, you can go to the mailbox in your PJ's. Drop your kid off at school (as long as you don't get out of the car), or run in the dead of night to get cold medicine for an ill child in your jammies. But really, you cannot, I repeat CANNOT go get groceries, walk into your child's school, go to the post office, have lunch at a restaurant, etc, etc in your Pajama's. Have some self-respect people. Put on a pair of jeans and deal with it. NO one, I repeat, No one, wants to see you in your pajama's!

2. Take my children out in public unwashed/or in miss-matched clothes
I know kids get dirty. I have two boys so they just attract dirt. It flies onto their bodies and sticks there until I scrub it off. However, I always, always make sure their hands and faces are clean whenever we go anywhere. Evan has supershort hair and the baby has that fine, curly baby hair that is just a mop so hair isn't usually a problem. I get so disgusted when I see kids in public that are dirty with bedhead. It's all I can do not to bust out a diaper wipe and clean them. Also, my kids are not going to wear cowboy or snow boots in the summer or their bathrobe in public because "they want to". I would never suffocate anyone's imagination or creativity but I am the parent and have the upper hand and plan to keep it! Maybe it's just easier with boys!

3. Text or Use a Bluetooth Headset
I have no use for either. I have a home phone, a cell phone and an email. If you can't get ahold of me using one of these forms of technology, you don't need to! Texting just seems dumb. And no wonder our young people can't spell, if all you do is text using abbreviations or icons then how can you learn to spell or actually speak? Don't even get me started on the Bluetooth headsets. Newsflash: You aren't that important. The hands-free is all good if you are driving, but do you really need that thing strapped to your ear to grocery shop or eat at a restaurant? You aren't going to get some critical phone call that can't be heard or felt when your phone rings/vibrates. Unless you are Jack Bauer, please oh please take off that ridiculous thing. It's like walking around with a bunch of schizophrenics in the world.

4. Talk on my Cellphone in a public bathroom
Really? You need to talk that badly while you are going to the bathroom? You need to talk and pee and let everyone else in the bathroom know what is going on? I am a freak about proper bathroom etiquette, you know flushing and washing your hands and stuff like that so I cannot stand to hear someone talking on their phone in the bathroom. When my phone rings and I am indisposed then I let it ring. If it's important they will leave a message. Plus I can see who just called. Not only is it rude but don't even get me started on how unsanitary that is!

5. Wear clothing that shows off my Bra/Bra straps
When did this become a fashion trend? Did someone resurrect Madonna? Now, I have been known to show a little decolletage now and then. My girls still look nice and with the proper top and undergarment it has a nice effect. But come on! Newsflash to all you young girls and to you women who should know better. If you are going to wear a tank that will show your bra strap then you need to wear a different kind of bra! A nice strapless one or a racer back perhaps. Maybe invest in one that you can modify the straps. You are only advertising one thing and its not good!

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Water, Water everywhere, but not a drop to drink.

Rain. Something I normally like. Rain doesn't usually bother me. I know its a necessity of this world. Things grow when it rains. The grass turns green. It's nice to listen to it on a warm breezy night as you are falling asleep.

The only thing is that sometimes, you get a little too much rain. Like now. We have had an overabundance of rain since Saturday. Enough already.

I live in an old house. We know that when it rains an extreme amount we get some water in our basement. In the almost nine years I have lived here, there have been four instances when it has gotten bad. Well now make it the fifth time and its bad.

So far I have shop-vaced about 80 gallons of water out of my basement and its still coming in. The only good thing is it's not in the whole basement and its not like its ankle deep. Its just annoying. And my house smells, and it's going to take about four more days to clean up. Also nothing got ruined this time because everything is off the floor in the toy room and in plastic tubs everywhere else.

Ok, enough complaining, there are some people much worse off, I just don't need this right now. Saturday my sister and I are doing the MOM2MOM sale in Birch RUn and I have about six tubs of baby clothes to go through and price. Wish me luck!

Sunday, April 26, 2009

Ilove my Ipod


Heaven is my new Ipod. Seriously. I finally got almost all my music on it and bought a few more tunes. I have 443 songs and lots of room for more.

I have been thinking about buying an MP3 for awhile. I kept debating on what type to get. Several friends have Zunes. Several have Ipods, and even more have some in-between brands. When the Ipod first came out, a guy I work with ran right out and bought one. He paid $400 for it and I don't even know how many gigs it was. He let everyone ooh and aah over it and now I cannot believe he paid that much.

I bought the 8GB. Pretty, pretty pink. The 16GB was only about $60 more but at the time it was only in Silver and Black. (I am such a girl).

I have been perusing Itunes a lot. Like spending an hour looking for songs. I think I will just buy Itunes cards when I have extra money because just throwing my credit card number out there would just be trouble. I would spend way too much, at least with the Itunes cards you know when you have run out of money.

So far I have cleaned and vacuumed and be-bopped around the house with it. Tomorrow I am taking it to work and plan on walking as long as it is not raining again.

If you see me dancing down Saginaw Street tomorrow don't be surprised. I sometimes lose myself. I can't help it.

Thursday, April 23, 2009

A month's worth of news

I finally have my computer back! Yeah! Also, luckily and thank you to Andy my computer guy, he was able to save all my music and my pictures. Now I know that I will be backing everything up!

My sister is sending me my Ipod UPS. That would be because we are technologically handicapped. I took my Ipod to her house to try and upload music while my PC was being fixed. She then tried to get some of her music on to my Ipod and somehow put all of her music from her MP3 onto my Itunes. I left it there for her to get her music off and she did but still can't get any music on my Ipod. She was supposed to bring it to me Sunday but she forgot it and since we live about two hours apart and I won't be heading that way for a few weeks- she is sending to me UPS.

The boys and I had a good spring break. We spent the first part of the week just hanging out cleaning and playing and going to the library. We went to my parents and sisters later in the week and hung out. Erin and I took the kids to see our Grandpa. He was thrilled to see the little kids and it makes me happy to see him happy. I have several cousins who live in that area that don't ever go to see him and it upsets me deeply. When my Grandma was alive our whole family did everything at their house and now that she is gone some of my aunts and uncles and alot of my cousins only show up at holidays. I know everyone is busy now, but my grandparents supported and practically raised some of their grandchildren. I live 100 miles away and always make it a point to see him when I am home.

Anyway, I had a nice time with my family, and my sisters and mom, and I went shopping and had a great day!

Last Wednesday Evan shut his thumb in the van door. I don't know what he was thinking but it was a a mess, blood everywhere and both kids screaming. It wasn't as bad as I initially thought since there wasn't a need for stitches, but it took a few days to heal up and now his thumbnail is black on the bottom so I am worried it's going to fall off.

I kind of fell off the fit train and have gained back about five pounds, but I am getting back on. I feel crappy and have some kinds of allergy-sinus thing going on but the weather is getting warm and I am ready to get back at it!

I have been quilting and scrap booking more and as soon as my printer is fixed I will have pictures to show. Right now I am making an Olivia quilt for my niece Avery. Her birthday is in a month so I know I will have it done!

Not much else, just the usual but I am ready to get back into the swing of things!

Monday, April 20, 2009

You have no idea.

At the beginning of my blog I talked about the issues I have in my home life, my marriage in particular. One thing you need to know about me is I am a very social talkative person. I don't tell everyone I know my business but if I considered you a friend I might share with you how I was, especially if you ask or seem concerned.


Some things have happened in the last few months that had made me decide to not be so honest or open about how I feel. People who I thought I was close with and could confide in, and understood me have turned on me. Sometimes those who you think you are closest to are the people you should avoid in times of trouble. I had to learn the hard way. So I have stopped sharing. I barely talk to people at work about anything other than the weather.


I still have some real friends who continue to inquire and counsel or offer advice and for the most part I really appreciate it.


However.......... you cannot really give someone advice unless you are in the situation. You can't say it will get better unless you are right there when things are bad. You cannot assume it's just a phase they are going through. You can't assume that the person will change or you just need to communicate better.

I have been with my husband for almost sixteen years, we have been married eleven. This isn't a simple communication issue. We don't need to learn how to treat each other better. If we haven't learned by now then we never will. I am not perfect. This is not all his fault but it's not just me being pissy either. He is just not a nice person. When I married him I had already known that he could be selfish and mean. I never thought that over the years it would get worse. He isn't physically abusive at all and he never calls me names or degrades me intentionally but what he does do is pick away at me until I cannot take it any longer. I either shut down or explode. He doesn't see it. We went to counseling together and I went by myself. Just because we went he thinks we are fine. I don't know how to show him we are not.

At this point all I can do is wait. Wait to see if I stay and just deal with it or bolt out the door. I can't really do anything right now because I can't afford to live on my own, and I really can't imagine not being with my boys every day. It would be very ugly. There is no way that we could just agree to split up and go on. I could but I know he wouldn't. I can take care of myself and I can take care of my boys.

Until you have been in this exact situation then you don't know how it feels and you can't tell me what I should do. All I ask is that you support me and listen if I ask you to and if you don't want to hear what I have to say then don't ask me at all.

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Reason number 5,675 I love my kids


Right now we are in the midst of watching Toy Story 1 and 2 in a continuous loop. When Evan was about 1 1/2 he watched both of these movies constantly.


We have him on videotape sitting in his little chair watching Toy Story and he is so engrossed in the movie he wouldn't look up, also there were parts in the movie where he would yell and jump and scream and run around. Even if he watched them 10 times a day he still have the same reaction.


He grew out of those movies and we would watch them occasionally but for the most part they were delegated back to movie drawer.


Along comes Owen and he is now 20 months old. We started watching them with him a few weeks ago and he is hooked. I was on vacation last week with the boys and we watched both movies no fewer than 20 times apiece. That is not an exaggeration by any means.


The cute part is that he gets excited and yells and screams in almost the same parts as his big brother. He jumps and raises his hands in the air and laughs and points at the screen.


I never get tired of watching these movies because I love watching the movies through his eyes. I love to see his reactions and his smiles.


My older boy enjoys it also, we know now these movies by heart and quote the lines to each other as the movie play. Rumour has it there will be a Toy Story 3 coming out. I hope so because I would love to take both of them to the theater to see it!

Sunday, April 5, 2009

My three things

They say things happen in Three's, Good or bad. Death often comes in Three's. Bad things, even happy things. In the last month I think I have had my Three. I hope so anyway.

About three weeks ago, our TV died. This wasn't a huge surprise since it had been flickering every time we turned it on for about three months. So we trekked of to Sam's and bought a very nice new Flat screen TV. I love it because our old one was a big behemoth of a machine.

My second thing was my computer. It just decided it hates me Thursday night and I think I need a new hard drive. I will be taking it tomorrow morning. I was supposed to do it yesterday, but that leads me to my third thing.

Friday night I took my oldest boy and a friend to see Monsters VS Aliens in 3D. It was awesome I highly recommend it. But that night at the theater my purse tipped over but I thought nothing fell out. WRONG! My wallet fell out. I didn't realize this until about noon yesterday. I flew up to the theater and luckily they had my wallet and all was intact. I checked with my bank to make sure there were no new authorizations on my debit card and called my credit card companies also. So, I went to take my computer to the shop and just as i had the CPU in there, my son says, "mom your tire looks flat!" Sure enough, it was going there. So this morning, my husband put the spare on it and I went up to Wallyworld and got two new tires and an oil change.

Hopefully this is my three because my checkbook can't take much more!!

Friday, April 3, 2009

I'm Depressed

I really shouldn't be. I am about 30 minutes from a week's vacation. The boys are on Spring Break next week and we will be hanging around the house then going to my parents for a few days and then Easter.

The reason I am depressed is that my computer picked last night to die. Everything was good Wednesday night. I shut off my PC and the Last night came home and turned it on, but instead of booting up, I got a Dos looking screen that basically told me Windows would not load properly and I could try and boot up in several different modes. I tried each of them and finally gave up and called Dell. 45 minutes and a language barrier later I had nothing. The guy was very nice and had me try several different things but it kept coming back to that initial screen. He thinks my hard drive is shot. There is a possibility that I will not recover all my pictures. I have alot of them on disc but many I just uploaded directly to my PC from my camera. I should know better but you know the old adage; "It will never happen to me"

Personally I think my computer hates me. I had to have it cleaned and reloaded last year because I got a nasty virus, now this. So now I am relegated to the library to use a computer until I get mine fixed which hopefully will be soon. I am taking it to my guy tomorrow. Cross your fingers because being on vacation and having no way to check my Facebook or blog could get ugly. Although I might get lots of other things done, I still will be jonesing for my Dell.

Have a great weekend